In pursuit of utopia

Many a time we say we’re waiting for Mr Right or looking for Miss Right
But just the other day I asked myself- I want the perfect partner but what about me?
Will I be their perfect partner?
Do I measure up to the profile that I’m demanding or wishing for?
Am I not expecting someone else to be better at what I myself know will not be able to achieve?
Bottom line is - are we realistic in our dreams and hopes of our partner for life
Never get me wrong here! I’m not saying settle for anything but take time to know that “love lets us view imperfections as tolerable if not adorable”
There’s a quote attributed to Mother Theresa “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

I’ve come to realise that some of the many scenes that we see on the wide screen as regards relationships are not that far fetched
Maybe the end has too much syrup to make the picture perfect, but the underlying relationships mirror what actually happens day to day
I was watching “The family that preys” and it got me thinking
(I’m now in love with the song I hope you dance)
Just how many women out there wish they had a better man than the one they actually have?
How many secretly wish their hubby was like the man they work with
I guess it’s to do with not accepting the fact that what’s on our plate is all you have
What’s on the plate next to you is not yours, and fro relationships you cannot get any left overs from there
Be satisfied with what’s in front of you
After all, you served yourself at the buffet
I don’t know why people expect their partners to change into what they want
Why not just look for the person with all that you’ll need?
There’s no guarantee they will change into what you desire coz what they are is IT
They’re the final thing
Try as you might to hint that they ought to carry themselves that way
They ought to change the way they do things
They ought to have more passion for life
Chances are they’ll only tolerate you for a while and settle down to whom they are
And then the infidelity begins
You see someone else as what you desire and you ensure they’re for the taking
Work is the place that most relationships blossom much
Why?
You spend so much time with these guys
You end up seeing them as the ideal person there ought to be
When you get home you see someone else
You see the person who still hasn’t changed into what you want
And you start drawing away
Gradually things fall apart
I pray for my future hubby coz I’ve seen it ain’t easy
Those around you influence you to some extent whether we like to acknowledge it or not
Don’t agree?
Rewind at what you blurted out the last time you had an argument with someone close –even a friend or a relative
You said things that you believed stayed in your subconscious but becoz they’d ticked you off bid time it came out
You never meant to say it coz it’d hurt them but it came out - some how- involuntarily
We all have our flaws
Ponder this - Wisdom comes with age, but sometimes age comes alone.