I, for one, don’t really believe in them to some extent
What compelled me to title this post as such is that I somehow had encounters of similar apparitions in real life
Here’s my story
A bloke comes up and pours his heart out to me and professes his undying love for me
Hold on, this is the first time I’m seeing this guy and he truly wants me to give him a chance
Hello, I don’t believe in being stalked and I believe in a bit of chit chat so that I have an idea who you are so that I’ll see if I’m up to playing game with you EVER at all
As if that wasn’t enough a blast from the past lets me know that they’re in town and wants to have a drink
People!
I don’t have space for such acquaintances especially now
I cleaned out my closet and I’m not taking back what I threw away
I’m also not taking in any new stuff just on the basis that it’s something new
NO!
I don’t want any meaningless or time consuming baggage
I let go and will not venture into taxing relationships
When I don’t feel like it I just don’t
I think with both my heart and my mind and when my heart don’t leap at first sight of you, my brain’s been conditioned to ask why?
And when brain says why, answer is a flat NO, coz heart wasn’t involvedJ
(heart's been hurt many a time when brain didn't play ball when heart skipped a beat, so the two are now BFFs coz brain was stressed most of the time coz of letting heart roam at will)
I love the way I’ve simplified this whole choosing process
It may be viewed too pragmatic but it’s working for me
As if the ghosts of the past and what could be aren’t enough for me to handle in one week,
Along comes another one
This isn’t a ghost at all
It’s just a mist
You talk to someone on your way from church and they figure you’re theirs just like that
Yes, just like that, and they go and tell their sister they’ve found themselves someone to wife
I was shocked beyond words and I just couldn’t muster the courage to tell the sister that he brother assumed too much from the single contact which truly speaking came about from having attended the same service and happening to be almost on the same path home
But seriously guys,
Is that how things now work?
Hunt, see something and just claim it’s yours even when the catch is in someone’s trap?
Ok, I’ll forgive you for not seeing that the catch is in someone else’s trap but to call hoe and tell the family to prepare cooking a rabbit when the rabbit is not yet in your grasp,
You haven’t even let go an arrow in the rabbit’s direction but just becoz you’ve imagined it, the family’s gotta prepare dinner?
Guys, give me break and do tell if I’m just being too unrealistic and have been left behind the tides of change in this dating world
What I know is that I’m not up for it
If alone I’ll be becoz of my views, then what will be will be
Ce que sera, sera, mes amis
I really hate busting someone’s bubble but at times one has to be frank and not pretend for the sake of someone who’ll you’ll only hurt more by not being frank in the first place
My resolutions for next year?
I’m still working on it, but count on Frank being thereJ
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Happy New Year 2010.
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I have a movie called the ugly truth,as much as I hate to relate life to movies,facts to fiction,brawn to brain.My wife and I enjoyed this movie. It totally got me thinking; we all have/had "lists". You know. That list of qualities and characteristics that we want in a partner. Tall, in shape, smart, educated, good job, Christian(same denomination),light in complexion. The list can go on and on. I guess for some, their list is short and limited and not really picky. For others, like Abby(lead actress in the movie), the list is longer and more complex and literally for "Mister Right!"
But really?! If you're old enough and you've lived your life, and got your heart broken a good handful of times, then you know there's no such thing as perfect, only imperfection seen as perfection in your eyes. I mean, sure I had my own list, but that list was only limited to kindness, age and ethnicity,down to earth .
My mother told me you should not be ashamed if you loved someone and they did not love you back.Since this time you are the one who rejected the offer you should not regret ,be ashamed or go back begging since the guy is premature to understand the necessary steps to a good relationship.What I also learned in life especially from the girls who rejected me is that they judged me by my complexion not my potential.Because not everyone can take the risk of being married to an simple man hoping one day he will be someone better .”What if he remains a nobody” yes that risk seems too big,like my elder brother told me the guarantee in life is that there is no guarantee. You might be rich today but tomorrow a poor man or vice versa.Time waits for noone cut down and simplify your list but don’t settle for anyone
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