Stress kills

I’m not alarmist, but I know that is a fact
I don’t have cases in point but I know it kills
For the third time in as many months I said ‘chakafukidza dzimba matenga’ yesterday to my aunt
We were discussing about the circumstances around a family member’s illness
They just went haywire the other day and the family said they’d gone mad
Now when you look at the circumstances around this said person,
I don’t wonder why what happened to them happened
Everyone reaches a breaking point and I know mine
When people push you there’s a limit to which you’ll go along
After a certain point you just will not take it
You will either break down or fight back
Breaking down is what people actually expect you to do
Fighting back, they’re never prepared for it unless you’ve done it before along the same road
Usually the road is different so they actually bet how you’ll breakdown
You’ll pack your bags, you cry foul or you’ll just give in to what they wanted you to do in the first place
People are indeed selfish
They never think about anyone further than themselves most of the times
They worry about their public image
They worry what people will think about them
They seldom ask what people think about them
Actually, they don’t want to know hat people think about them
They want people to think about them the way they want them to
I stop before the tangent becomes too wide.
When someone does what’s not expected of them and they have to deal with the situation they are now in, not many people genuinely support them
Support, not in the sense of condoning them, but in the sense of helping them through the difficult phase they will be going through
We all make mistakes at some time
Admittedly, it’s not easy to accept some of the mistakes people make
Especially when they are family, especially children under one’s roof
But that’s why we are human
I have a problem when a Christian openly says they forgive someone’s error and will be there to support them all the way
Support they do, till the person they’re in company with leaves
After that, they start condemning the person in secret to everyone but openly to the said offender
The picture outside is rosy but inside it’s a different story
The person who made a mistake will be paying for their mistake daily
They’re reminded of what they did and what they should have done
They’re told daily of the inconveniences they’ve imposed on the family
They’re a burden to the family
They’ve messed up the picture of the family
They silently pay for their mistake by the daily admonitions
On the outside people think that the offender is eating themselves up over a mistake they’ve been forgiven of not knowing that they never were forgiven and probably never will
They wither silently as they cannot talk against a person whom to the outside world extended the olive leaf and continues to even shun discussion of the matter as it was forgiven and should be forgotten
I hate such double standards, but it’s something I’ve seen continue daily in our existence
Sometimes the offender will be brave enough to start over and start a new life away from the family as they know they will not survive under such conditions
My awe is at the secret keepers
The ones who have two faces- one for the public and another for the offender
They have a hard act to keep up
They also are stressed with how they have to carry on
All their actions have to be in check so that people will never know the real truth
It’s a sad situation that has been perpetrated over the ages and unfortunately my sex is to blame more for that
We keep things inside and there is this evil vengeance that has to be satisfied all the time we lie that we’ve forgiven someone
The ‘stronger’ sex has the public on their side and it’s expected that they will not forgive and so they do not bother expressing their true opinion
The public acts in a manner that declares that they cannot forgive the offender so even if they forgive the person they have nothing to deal with as the public has already decided on how they will treat the matter
Oh! How I wish we all would be true to ourselves and to others
The burdens we carry with us daily take their toll on s and people declare ‘that’s what mothers/women are like, cares and worries of the family wear them down and so we should love them more even if they err sometimes’
I’m not for the school of accepting ‘norms’ as some of these norms are just wrong
I believe we dissolve into oblivion because of being the normal accepted being of society
I will be me and not lie or stress.
We have heavy enough loads as it is without deception
So be true to truth and have a happy, stress free life.