Another sad day

I sit here with a heavy heart as I write this blog
I remember sometime back someone said out of all the people they know, I was the one who had had the most funerals
Strange but true
I have lost loved one and loved ones of friends so beloved
Today I was shocked to hear that a dear friend’s brother passed away in the early hours of today
He was still waiting to be admitted into hospital after complaining of a headache
This all happened so fast
People at the funeral were all shocked as most of them had interacted with the deceased at some point yesterday
He as well
And today he’s dead
What pains me is my friend
Yes I was close to his brother but to imagine the pain my friend is going through just makes me shed tears
Their mother passed away in March this year
I never expected that she’d die considering what had put her in hospital
She’d slipped at home sometime last year and fractured her ankle
Then this year she just had high blood pressure at some point and then the leg gave her some problems and when we were expecting to hear that she’d been discharged from hospital, we hear she’s passed on
My friend is a girl who’s off the continent for some studies
I was the one to break the news of her mum’s passing
When I called her I assumed that she’d been told
When I realized she didn’t know I just felt she had to know
Little did I know that her relatives wanted to break the news when she arrived at the airport under the pretext of coming to see her mum who’d been taken seriously ill
When I went to the funeral and broke the news that I’d told her of the funeral I couldn’t take the pain I’d caused
I took time talking to fiends just to get over the episode and when she flew down here for the funeral I couldn’t stop myself from crying all over
It was just unbearable
Then today I learn of her brother’s death
I was shocked
His death was something that just happened out of the blue
Yes he complained of a headache late yesterday but I don’t believe anyone thought that was the last time they’d be seeing him alive
I take the pain of the loss
I feel the pain
It is just not fair
The mum passed away barely seven months ago and now the eldest child passes on without as much as an ailment to make anyone think they could die from it
Five hours is all the pain he endured and the time his younger brother was on his side hoping to get assistance for the elder brother who suddenly had a headache that he could not live with
Yes aI accept that when our time comes we will die
But the way we’re taken is just not fair on those who are left behind
Children are taught how to grow up too soon
People cope with pain in ways they never thought they could manage
Yes, God is with us
But allow me to cry for my dear friend and her family
It is just too much pain for one year
It is just too much pain for a child to bear whilst they are on their own in a foreign country
It is too much for a child to bear as they wonder about their elder sister who’s all alone and they had been staying as two brothers with the other siblings at work or with their married family
It is just too much dear Lord
Please ease the pain and please give them a time of rest
A time when they can heal and not wait to see who is taken away next
Please dear God, give them some rest for them to heal as a family and once again form the bond they had as a family
Please let them have some time to regroup and try to cover the gaps left by their mum and their brother
Please God, allow them time to grow as children and make some memories to share and reminisce about when they are much older
Please God, let them live for some time without death walking into their family
Dear God, for now I seek rest for this family
For now, I seek your comfort and grace
For now I seek life for this family.